On Self Care
As seen on the internet: "I love self care so much. Like, hell yeah, take your bubble baths. Light those candles. Moisturize you body, drink tea. Take a four hour nap to recharge. Think loving thoughts."
Mmm hmm... totally feeling this quote today. When we feel run down, bummed out or just a bit off we need to handle ourselves with care and love and engage in things that will make us feel BETTER. This almost never involves going out binge drinking, hanging out with people who aren't good to us or treating others poorly because we're having a bad time.
All of the ideas mentioned in the quote are wonderful. Other acceptable activities include: episodes of your favorite show, a phone call to someone who loves you, long walks, yoga, rejuvenating face masks (?) or doing whatever it is that truly brings you happiness and peace.
When I was training to become a therapist we actually had to make a self care plan, and develop a list of things that we would do to maintain good mental health and wellness. It definitely helps to know what these things are ahead of time so that we don't fall into harmful ways of coping with stress. We also had accountability partners we could check in with periodically to share if/when we were incorporating our self care plan (this can be a regular friend, or therapist!). What works for one person may not work for everyone. Example - I am so bad at baths. I don't get how people stay in there for more than a couple of minutes??
Making self care a priority and incorporating it into your daily life will help prevent burnt out, not just address it once it is occurring. Being aware of what self care means to you will also give you concrete, reliable things you can do to cope when the going gets tough. Treat Yourself!